How to love yourself has been a decades-long adventure for me. It was not a conversation or topic likely to come up in my early environment. However, I had a lot of questions and a strong inner directive to find the answers.
It's been a long and winding road. I can still find myself at that blurry edge of co-dependency and compassionate connection. I had an incident on Friday. It is still reverberating through my body. My boundaries feel like JellO. I'm porous, no edges.
You get me, right? Self-love is an ongoing adventure. It may not have meaning at a higher frequency but while you're traipsing about in the physical it's some thing to hold onto. Something that won't slip through your fingers.
This self-love gig requires focus, even to this day. I have a tendency to fall into old habits and ways of being with those I love. I find, again and again, that I have to choose to love myself instead of sacrificing myself for the love of others. Friday's incident highlighted an old theme. I still forget.
I find I still need the things that help me remember who I really am. Practices do that for me. Here's a self-love practice that boosted my belief in myself when I was really floundering:
Self-Love Practice: Create a LOVE ME file.
- Create a directory on your cloud drive. Or, you can store it in OneNote, Evernote, or Notion.
- Fill it up with the nice things people say about you.
- When you're in the dip, sit with these love bits. Open to your fullness and receive. It will fill your tank. I promise.
- Want to boost it even more? Send an email to friends, family, clients, colleagues (take your pick). Ask them what they love about you. Add these juicy bits to your online love bank.
It might be hard to do. This might feel like a big ask. Take the risk. Your leap of faith will be rewarded.
At one time I didn't get my special pizzazz, lol! This practice helped. I created a folder on my cloud drive and called it: Love Adela. I filled her up. When I forget, I visit that folder until I remember.
This is a beautiful gift of connection and clarity that we gift one another.
Thank you, darlings!