Do you ever feel exhausted from all your giving? Ever wondered, deep down inside, what about me? When will it be my turn to be showered with love, attention, and goodies?
One of the reasons you may not be noticing the abundance in your world might be that your flow is more out than in. You might be more practiced in giving than receiving. This is especially true with women, or if you're in a caregiving role. And though it feels wonderful to give, it is unbalanced to only be the giver.
Check-in right now and see if this is you. Do you always turn up with a gift in hand? Are you always the one who volunteers to do the extra stuff? When someone needs help are you readily available to lend a helping hand?
When you're used to being the giver it can be downright uncomfortable to receive. As a matter of fact you may find few opportunities to receive because you've trained others so well to see you as the giver. In that case, you'll need to flex your asking muscles. Now is the perfect time to gift others with the opportunity to shower you with goodness.
Here are 3 simple steps to get you into the ask and receive flow:
1. Ask for help. Don't make it complicated, keep it simple. Asking is just like a muscle you have to flex lightly at first. You can start off with simple requests and build up to bigger ones. For example, if you're used to doing all the clean up after dinner at home you might start off with, “Can you help me clear the table?” In your business, you might start off by asking your friends on social media to share a post.
2. Let go of the how. Once you ask, let go of how the help is executed. You may have a very particular way in which you clear your table. It's more important to allow the goodwill to flow and the help to be delivered. Often you'll be surprised at how you might incorporate other methods into your own.
3. Appreciate the giver. A simple thank you, while gazing into the eyes of your gift-giver is perfect. Sincere acknowledgment can be such a rarity in today's world. It's the most precious and abundant exchange you can gift your giver. If an in-person thank you is not possible, then a short thank you note will suffice. Make sure to infuse it with the energy of your appreciation.
When you are open to receive you actually gift others with the blessing of giving. You also align with universal principles that recalibrate your being. It is good to give and to receive. Make it so and let it flow!