August 19


4 Ways to Flex Your Self-Forgiveness Muscle

By Adela Rubio

August 19, 2013

Feelings, Happiness, Kindness, Self Forgiveness

BIG Shifts are chock full of opportunities for self-forgiveness.

Tempers run short, emotions run high. You're bound to say or do something, you won't feel particularly proud of.

There's probably no other time when you're prone to make more mistakes than usual. This being human gig takes practice.

Now, more than ever is a perfect time to lighten up, especially with your own mishaps.

Here are 4 ways to flex your self-forgiveness muscle:

1. Feel your feelings, but don't hold onto them. We all experience negative feelings: anger, fear, resentment. Welcome feelings, but then release them. The worst thing you can do is put those feelings on instant replay. It will only attract more of the same stuff. Let it in, then let it go. Feelings are part of the human experience. Allow them to inform you, not immobilize you.

2. Envision the Possible You. Especially during darkest times, hold fast to the vision of who you are becoming (as a consequence of this BIG Shift). Don't give energy to the negative aspect of your BIG Shift story. The less you say about and perpetuate the old story, the sooner you'll create the new one. Keep focused on the continuum of your expansion and expression. See yourself as the evolutionary being that you are.

3. Do Things That Make You Happy. Keep your poise and positive attitude and act as best you can moment to moment. Do little things every day that give you that cup runneth over feeling. It might be taking a bubble bath, singing to your favorite songs, or going to a special place that you love. Going off on a weekly Artist Date is a great practice too. And, if you love company, make sure to invite a good friend to share it with you.

4. Engage in random acts of kindness. Even if it seems insignificant, devote yourself to giving selflessly. You may have lost things during your BIG Shift, but you did not lose your most precious resource: You! Share your gifts and talents and your joys and thrills. The more you share, the more that energy multiplies and ricochets back to you. The energy of giving is the most abundant force on the planet.

Forgiveness is a power tool that frees your energy and unleashes your creative essence. It also puts you in the present moment, instead of the past. It liberates you from the chains of the old and positions you on the pathway to the new.

Go ahead and play with self-forgiveness today. Let me know what you discover in the comments below.

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  1. When we forgive ourselves or others, we are saying we are for or support giving (for-giving). And we know that what we give we get; reap what we sow. It has been said that giving is the most powerful force in the universe because it is the most like Source or God energy. I’m not sure “forgiveness” is necessary. We are really all innocent in our pure being. It is our minds that tell us there is something “not right” that we need to “forgive”. I am “for” giving, however. It is one of the most joy-full and exhilarating things I can do, whether it’s through conversation, a poem, creating an innovative project, product or service, spending time with a friend, volunteering for a favorite community project, posting on Facebook, e-mailing some of my faves to friends, or walking around connected to my own Source energy. YES! GIVING IS DIVINE!

    1. I’m totally with you, Sue! Forgiving heals the idea of separation… which means no forgiveness necessary. Most folks still get stuck, from time to time, in the mind. Hence, the interim tools. Yes, to being, darling!

      1. Thanks, Gina-Dianne, the more people who see this and live it, the faster we can make it a reality. Glad you’re part of this “support group” 🙂

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